Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?

Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?

Expedition Marriage with Chris & Jamie Bailey
Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?
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While wearing masks on Halloween can be totally acceptable and actually rather fun, where it really starts getting scary is when we wear them with one another in our marriage. There can be real danger in not allowing your spouse to see who you really are.

We’re sharing the top 3 masks we see couples trying to put on, and what they think they’re achieving by hiding behind them.

Find our show notes at https://expeditionmarriage.org/post/podcast/ep-7-masks-in-marriage-are-you-wearing-one/

If you want to know how to have solid communication and have some opportunities to grow and connect, check out our new book, Newlywed Couple’s Devotional, for newlyweds and for newlywed wannabes!

3 Things Not to Say to Your Spouse

3 Things Not to Say to Your Spouse

Do you remember being a kid and having a peer, a teacher, or perhaps even a parent, either in gest or intentionally speak a word to you that stung your heart to the point where you physically felt the dagger? Maybe it was the boy who told you your nose was too big, the teacher who said how disappointed they were in you, or the parent who told you that you were always a bother?

I think we all know what it’s like to have harsh words come at us, but in addition to harsh words, there are also dismissive words that can hurt too. These are the words that we might be frequently saying to our spouse, and if we’re honest, those can sting just a little bit more. God has given us words to speak life or to speak death, and when it comes to our spouse especially, we need to be choosing life.

One of the quickest ways to ignite fury in your spouse is to tell them to “Calm down.” Now, I know that those words don’t seem harsh or abrasive, but the problem with them is the meaning behind them. What this phrase means is, “What is wrong with you? Why can’t you have self-control like me?” These are words that claim superiority, and they are demeaning. They take advantage of someone who is already upset and in a vulnerable position. Ever seen someone pour gas on a fire? Well, this is doing that with words.

The next phrase you don’t want to come out of your mouth is “Stop worrying.” These words are dismissive. They tell your spouse that their concerns are no big deal, when in fact, they are feeling very valid to them. Give your spouse permission to be afraid, and then remind them that you are right there with them in their fears. Your spouse’s worrying is a great opportunity for you to pray for them or just let them know they’re not alone. Focus on that instead.

Another phrase that can get us into a little bit of trouble is when we tell our spouse, “You shouldn’t feel that way.” The truth is we all have every right to feel however we want to about things. There is no right or wrong in what we feel. There is a right or wrong in the actions that follow our feelings, but that’s not what we’re talking about here. When we tell our spouse their feelings aren’t valid, we’re also telling them that their thoughts and opinions don’t matter. That will obviously not go anywhere good.

So, the next time you want to open your mouth and let one of these phrases roll off your tongue, pause and think about it. As the Message Bible version tells us in Proverbs 21:23, “Watch your words and hold your tongue; you’ll save yourself a lot of grief.”

If you want to discuss this more or hear one more phrase not to say, or perhaps learn what to say instead, check out what we have to say on episode 4 of The Expedition Marriage podcast, What Not to Say to Your Spouse.

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Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?

Ep. 6: Keeping Love Alive

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Ep. 6: Keeping Love Alive
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Today we’re shooting from the hip, going off the cuff, or whatever else you call it when we just decide to hit record and share some real conversations that take place in our marriage.

We’re asking each other a specific question, “What do you think we do that keeps our alive?” Tune in to hear our individual answers, and then keep listening to find out what we both agree are the things that will do the opposite and kill your love.

Find more at https://expeditionmarriage.org/post/podcast/ep-6-keeping-love-alive/

As always, we would love for you to share this with your spouse and friends. 

Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?

Ep. 5: Technology in Marriage

Expedition Marriage with Chris & Jamie Bailey
Ep. 5: Technology in Marriage
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What gets in the way of connecting with our spouse more than anything nowadays? Technology, mainly our cell phones. They keep us attached to the outside world way more than they help us stay connected to our spouse. Join us today as we chat about the specific ways our phones can wreak havoc in our marriages, and then find out how we can use them for good!

For more show notes, visit: 

https://expeditionmarriage.org/post/podcast/technology-in-marriage/

Ep. 7: Masks in Marriage. Are you wearing one?

Ep. 1: Our Why

Expedition Marriage with Chris & Jamie Bailey
Ep. 1: Our Why
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On today’s episode we’re giving you a glimpse into why we do what we do here at Expedition Marriage. We know that not everyone dreams of growing up and becoming marriage counselors. I know, as fun as it sounds to sit with couples and talk about problems, for whatever reason it just isn’t the most desirable of career choices for most. BUT, we each have our reasons behind why we chose this path and we want to share them with you.

So, grab a few minutes and join us. We promise, once you get to know us you’ll quickly learn that we’re just an ordinary couple with a God sized, hope filled vision for marriages and families.

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Find out more at https://expeditionmarriage.org/post/podcast/our-why/