Keeping the spark alive in your relationship is important to every healthy and thriving marriage. But let’s be real; there are seasons when this is challenging: New babies, parenting, job stress, financial stress, hormones, health issues, to name a few.

So, let’s dive right in and get practical with some tips on how to keep that romance, and yes, we’re talking sex here too, alive:

5 Practical Tips

Number one, give grace for different seasons! Some stages of life need to be met with grace. Sex should never become a chore or a stressor. But this should also be temporary, so keep that in mind. 

Next, keep your communication game strong, especially in a tough season where sex and intimacy have been a struggle.  That means talking honestly, openly, and often. Share your feelings, thoughts, and desires with each other. If you’ve been overwhelmed, say so. If you are having a hard time enjoying sex, speak up. If your spouse isn’t receptive to your struggle, the last tip will help you. 

Have date nights, and not just any kind of date night. Make them fun! Learn something new together and go on adventures. Bring fun and laughter into the mix. Those are natural remedies to the everyday stressors of life that can work against you in remaining connected intimately. 

Now, be sure you’re showing affection too! Those small acts of affection, like holding hands, hugging, and kissing without expectations, can absolutely keep the spark alive. Sometimes it’s these little moments that add up the most.

And finally, this is a big one; work through any problems you have. If things aren’t addressed in your marriage, bitterness and resentment will grow, which means your romance will not. Don’t let small issues become big or big issues become bigger. Problems do not magically go away on their own or because of wishing and hoping they will.  If you can team up and address them together, great! But if you need some professional help, that’s okay too. Just be sure to get it!


Remember, keeping the spark alive in your marriage takes effort from both of you, but one of you can go first and lead the way. When you prioritize your marriage, you can be sure the sparks will fly for years to come!