Have you ever gotten bad marriage advice? What about bad advice regarding sex? On today’s part 2 conversation, we tackled some bad advice around the topic of sex and pornography, and we bet you could hardly believe some of the stats we shared. We even shared some hard truths about bad advice that can come from the church.
Here’s some of what we covered:
Married Sex is boring OR Marriage makes sex great- Both are wrong. Sex in marriage should be fulfilling and fun and just being married doesn’t automatically make that so. Great sex takes investment and time. Practice, emotional connection, curiosity, and desires to truly get to know one another, are all components of a good sex. It’s totally fine for these to unfold over time and not happen automatically.
If you give your husband enough sex, he’ll never look at porn – The husband is responsible for his own self-control. His self-control is NOT his wife’s responsibility. God has equipped him with all he needs to say no to such a marriage intruder. Viewing porn is not a lack of sex issue.
Porn is normal. All guys watch it- 100% not true. See the link on stats to view how very not normal it is. It invades your home, steals your marriage, takes over your brain and disconnects you from your spouse. In no way as believers, should that be considered normal.
Be sure to listen if you haven’t already. This is an area you can truly stand guard for your marriage and family.
My husband watches FX TV series that have sex scenes and vulgar language. Although they are not truly pornography they are very graphic. If I walk in on it I have to walk out immediately. I am a former rape victim and very sensitive to this material.
That is understandable. I can see how that would be a big trigger for you. I hope this is something you can speak to him about and let him know what it does to you and how it makes you feel.
That is understandable. I wish he was more sensitive to you and to putting that kind of stuff into his mind.