Ep. 12 Boundaries During the Holidays

What do you value? Family? Peace? Your time? Respect? Have you ever thought about a plan on how to protect those things?

 

In order to be able to set up proper boundaries, you first need to know what it is that needs protecting. The truth about boundaries is that they are all about you and protecting whatever it is that you value. Boundaries get difficult when we make them about others. That’s when we feel the guilt of offending or hurting people, so instead of placing a boundary up we self-sacrifice the things we value to make others feel better.

 

The basic rules of boundaries are :

· Your family, YOU deal with boundaries with them. Don’t allow your spouse to handle your family. That is your responsibility.

· Know what you value so you can know what you need to protect.

· Predict and plan for the common problems. Set a boundary in place before you even have to deal with it.

 

To initiate a boundary, you must first ask or state what it is that you want or are willing or not willing to accept. Then you repeat yourself once if needed, and if it is still not respected you initiate an action or consequence.

 

As we mentioned this episode, we are making available our Boundaries video lesson from our Marriage Holiday Survival Guide (*not available for 2020). Please access it for free by filling out the below…

Ep. 11: Holiday Stress

This is episode 11 where we’re talking about Holiday Stress, what it is and what you can do about it! We all have amped up stress during the holidays. Holiday stress is basically regular stress on steroids!

We don’t want you to settle or feel defeated by the stress that comes up every time the holidays roll around. We want you prepared, ready and in fact, actually excited about the festivities ahead.

We share how the greatest stressor for wives is feeling alone in all the holiday prep work, and how they feel like they’re carrying the burden all by themselves. We also share how husbands greatest stressors is worrying about holiday debt, being able to provide and just being strung along without being informed of any pans. Together, their greatest complaint is feeling as if their spouse just doesn’t have their back.

The best way to prevent the holiday stress is to have a written down plan. Why?

83% of people do not have any kind of plan

 

14% of people have a plan and don’t write it down. Those 14% have a 10 times more likely success rate just for having a plan.

 

3% of people have a plan and they write it down. Those 3% people have a 30 times more likely success rate than anyone else.

That’s why we have a free download today for a Stress Free Holiday Plan. Download it, work on it together and put that plan in action! We want you to succeed in having a stress free holiday this year!