On the podcast –
God Designed Sex for Connection –
So Why Aren’t Christians Talking About It?
Why can two people deeply love each other and still feel completely disconnected—emotionally or sexually?
And why is sex still something so many Christian couples struggle to talk about?
Today we’re joined by licensed marriage and family therapist George Faller, founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy and coauthor of Brave Love, Great Sex.
Before becoming a therapist, George served as a lieutenant in the New York City Fire Department, including during 9/11. And interestingly, that experience still shapes the way he approaches struggling marriages today:
Instead of running away from the fire, learn how to move toward it.
George helps us understand the attachment patterns operating both inside and outside the bedroom—and why what looks like anger, withdrawal, rejection, pressure, or defensiveness may actually be a signal pointing toward a deeper need for connection.
We’re talking about:
- Why emotional and sexual connection can’t be separated
- The attachment needs underneath conflict
- Why some spouses protest while others withdraw
- How self-protection creates negative cycles
- Why emotions are information—not problems
- How vulnerability creates connection
- Why rejection can create sexual anxiety
- Why repair matters more than never getting it wrong
- Why Christian couples need to get better at talking about sex
- How shame and purity-culture messages can follow us into marriage
- Why great sex isn’t primarily about performance
- The importance of sexual communication
- Why pressure can shut down desire
- How pain and chronic illness affect sexual intimacy
- Why mismatched desire doesn’t mean you can’t have a fulfilling sex life
- What can happen to intimacy after 50
- George’s four-step process for building a new cycle of connection
- How couples who have been disconnected for years can begin finding their way back
One of our favorite reminders from this conversation:
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s connection and repair.
If you’ve been avoiding conversations about emotional or sexual intimacy because they feel uncomfortable, this episode is an invitation to choose the discomfort that can actually take your marriage somewhere better.
Because you don’t have to stay stuck in the same cycle forever.
You can find more about George on his website – https://georgefaller.com
You can order his new book from Amazon
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