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When One of You Can’t Say No: Understanding the Pleaser in Marriage

Does your spouse always say “yes,” avoid conflict, or seem overly focused on making everyone else happy—even at their own expense? You may be married to a Pleaser. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it really means to be married to a Pleaser—how this love style forms, how it impacts your relationship, and what both of you can do to create deeper emotional intimacy.

💬 “Pleasers aren’t trying to be fake—they’re trying to stay safe.”

This episode is all about moving from performance to authenticity—and learning to build a marriage where honesty, vulnerability, and mutual care are welcome.

🧭 What You’ll Learn:

• What drives the Pleaser Love Style

• Why pleasers often avoid conflict and overextend themselves
• What it’s like being married to a Pleaser—and the hidden costs of chronic “yes”
• How to respond with love, not pressure
• Practical steps for Pleasers to grow in confidence and connection

💡 Key Highlights:

• Pleasers often come from critical or high-pressure homes and learned to keep the peace by minimizing their needs.

• Being married to a Pleaser may feel emotionally confusing—because it’s hard to connect with someone who won’t show you their full self.
• Change is possible when Pleasers feel safe to express, say no, and trust that love isn’t based on performance.

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:

• Galatians 1:10 – “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God?”

• Ephesians 4:15 – “Speak the truth in love…”

🎯 Take Action:

• 💬 Talk with your spouse using these connecting questions:

1. What is one thing I can do for you to help make tomorrow easier?
2. What reactions of mine tend to be stressful to you?
3. Is there an area of your life, even with me, where you feel like you have to walk on eggshells? Why is that?

• 📤 Share this episode with a friend or couple who may need it.
• ⭐️ Leave a review on your favorite podcast platform to help other couples find biblical encouragement.
• 🔗 Visit ExpeditionMarriage.org for more marriage tools and support.

💭 You don’t have to earn love through peacekeeping. Real connection happens when you let yourself be known—and loved—in truth.

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