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Becoming a PhD of Your Spouse How to Recognize Stress Cues and Respond with Love

When life gets heavy, stress often shows up in our marriages—not just in words, but in subtle cues, tones, and behaviors. In this episode, Chris and Jamie share why becoming a “PhD of your spouse” is one of the most loving and practical things you can do for your marriage.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why stress “tells” matter and how noticing them can prevent unnecessary conflict and deepen empathy (Philippians 2:4).
• Common stress cues to look for—like withdrawal, red face, clenched jaw, irritability, avoidance, hypervigilance, or the “checked-out” mode on the couch.
• How to respond with love instead of defensiveness by pausing, checking in gently, and offering support without assumptions (Hebrews 12:14; Romans 12:18).
• What it means to become a “PhD of your spouse”—studying their patterns, stress responses, and emotional needs so you can build unity instead of division.
• Practical steps to breathe life into your marriage by identifying stress cues, supporting one another, and shifting from “me vs. you” to “we.”

✨ Key Quotes from the Episode

• “Marriage thrives when we study one another.”
• “Noticing your spouse’s stress cues isn’t about fixing them—it’s about loving them well.”

📖 Scriptures to Reflect On

• Philippians 2:4 — “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
• Proverbs 10:19 — “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”
• Hebrews 12:14 — “Strive for peace with everyone.”
• Romans 12:18 — “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

🛠️ Free Resource

Download our PhD of Your Spouse Stress Cues Worksheet to help you and your spouse talk through your unique stress patterns and how you can support one another.

🎯 Call to Action

• Leave us a review (like Ilive4him24 did!)—your reviews help more couples find the hope and tools they need.
• Download your free worksheet and start the conversation this week.
• Check out Episode 134 with Dr Christine Baker on Nervous System Regulation in Marriage  https://expeditionmarriage.org/podcast/ep-130-nervous-system-regulation-in-marriage-with-dr-christine-baker/

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