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When Your Heart Grieves Before Anything Happens:
Understanding Anticipatory Grief in Marriage

Have you ever felt fear, heaviness, or sadness long before anything “bad” actually happened? There’s nothing wrong with and you’re not dramatic. But you may be experiencing anticipatory grief, and it impacts marriages far more than couples realize.

In this episode, Chris & Jamie unpack why your heart sometimes grieves before life changes… and how this hidden emotional process can affect connection, communication, and even conflict inside the marriage.

This is one of the most tender, eye-opening conversations you’ll hear. Whether you’re caring for aging parents, walking through health concerns, navigating infertility, or simply sensing that something in your life or marriage is shifting.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

1. What Anticipatory Grief Actually Is and how it shows up

2. Expected Causes of Anticipatory Grief in Marriage

3. Unexpected Causes Couples Don’t Realize Are Grief

4. How Anticipatory Grief Shows Up Between Spouses

Many couples think they have a marriage problem —
when really, they have a grief problem.

Signs include:

• Irritability
• Anxiety
• Emotional shutdown
• Clinging or control
• Avoidance
• Misreading each other’s responses

We share how this creates friction, especially when men & women process anticipatory grief differently.

5. The Transformational Question: “What am I anticipating?”

A grounding tool to help couples move from fear to clarity and compassion.

This question helps you uncover:

• The loss you’re imagining
• What part of your heart feels threatened
• How your love is showing up as fear

Grief becomes a doorway to deeper connection when it’s named.

6. Reframing Grief as a Couple: Turning Toward Instead of Away

We teach couples how to ask:

• “Are we fighting because of grief, not each other?”
• “Are we withdrawing because something scares us?”

And how to say:

• “I’m scared of losing ___.”
• “I’m grieving how things are changing.”
• “I need you with me in this.”

7. What Couples Can Actually Do with Anticipatory Grief

Practical tools you can use today:

8. A Biblical Perspective on Anticipatory Grief

We explore comfort and grounding through Scripture:

• Psalm 34:18
• Matthew 6:34
• Romans 8:38–39
• 1 Peter 5:7

God meets us not only in the losses we face but also in the ones we fear.

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