Does your spouse constantly walk away or shut down communication with you? Do they struggle or rarely share how they feel, except for anger? Maybe you find yourself struggling to believe that they even care about you anymore. If any of this sounds like your spouse or if it sounds like you, this episode on avoiding in marriage is for you! Join us as we help navigate this all-too-common problem in marriage.
We’re talking about all the things that come with being or being married to an avoider in marriage. Things like:
- Typical responses
- Where avoidance has its roots
- How to tell if you’re an avoider
- What avoiders need
If there is avoidance going on in your marriage, there is a better way, and this episode will help you learn what that is. `
Verses:
Gen. 2:18
John 15:12
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Can you develop on that talks about acknowledgment in fighting. I know that is why I repeat my self alot bc I don’t think he is listening and he doesn’t acknowledge what I said.
Yes, we sure can! Listening, understanding and validating. We can do it
I feel my spouse is done
He I’d giving me 2 months to change
He won’t change he said if I don’t change he’s divorcing me
What can I do I feel numb hurt
I live him
But he’s constantly downing me
I try hard to do make him happy I just feel like what’s the point when his actions show so different than his words
I’m not sure what he’s desiring for you to change but the way this is coming across is very much like he’s gaslighting you and casting all the blame on you without being willing to change anything himself.
Here is a link to a site that has a free online assessment that helps you gain clarity in these situations. The author and counselor, Leslie Vernick, also has great teaching videos and other resources as well. Her book is fantastic too. Hope this helps!
https://g14llpzk.pages.infusionsoft.net
What you are describing is a husband who gives ultimatums, takes no personal responsibility, is unwilling to change, and who constantly puts you down. That is emotional abuse. It is draining and confusing. Here is an online assessment that helps you determine if your marriage is destructive. You might find it helpful. https://g14llpzk.pages.infusionsoft.net
I also want to give you a podcast episode for emotionally abusive marriages to see if you see your marriage in it. It’s called Enough is Enough. https://expeditionmarriage.org/post/podcast/ep-70-enough-is-enough-interview-with-dr-david-e-clarke-phd/
Hope those help!